Mother’s Day from a Mom’s Perspective

Written by Tina Bushman,

While trying to remember my favorite Mother’s Day, I started reading past journal/blog entries and got caught up looking through Table Talk author photopictures and reliving the memories.

I smiled at the useful gifts: I got new mixing bowls that no one has ever thrown up in or used to wash the car!” “Guess who was first to try out the new vacuum attachment for the stairs”¦and still in his work clothes.”

I laughed at the plans I made for myself: “I’m excited to have the missionaries over for dinner tomorrow night, ensuring me good food and a clean house. What more could I ask for?”

I cried remembering the years of struggle. “I try hard to remember that Mother’s Day is just like any other day except that my family gives me presents for doing what I love. Most years it works great. Other years not so much. Instead, as my kids point out my strengths, I remember my weaknesses and where I can improve. This year I can’t seem to let go of all the sad, tragic events happening in lives around me. Sometimes I wish I had a magic wand to fix all the hard things in life. But if I had to pick: natural disasters or family disasters? I know which I’d pick. So I’ll go back and read those nice cards and realize I’m doing a pretty good job as a mother…or at the very least I have good goals to be. And I’ll try to be more grateful. Try. Try. Try.”

I gushed at my husband’s thoughtfulness: “For our Mother’s Day date, John took me on a quiet picnic by the lake. My favorite part was when I jokingly said, “˜I would love to see a bald eagle. That would be so cool. Could you make that happen?’ John laughed. Not 30 seconds later, a bald eagle swooped down, grabbed a fish, circled overhead and flew off. True story. How did he make that happen?”

I loved more than anything the handmade gifts and sweet, sometime hilarious, messages from my children, like the one written on a paper plate by a 7 year old: “I know that I always don’t have cash so I got you something for free…coupons!” “Tori, took all the writing space so I’ll just say Thank you and I love you.” And my favorite:I hope when you’re old, you can look back at this card and say, “˜My daughter gave this to me. And look how far she’s come.'”

Overall, when I think about Mother’s Day I think it’s awesome that the people I love give me gifts and pampering for doing what I was born to do, what I’ve chosen to do, and what I love to do!

If you don’t love Mother’s Day, I have some tips that have helped me in the past.

  1. If you aren’t yet a mother, honor your own mother or another mother who you admire.
  2. The adversary wants nothing more than to devalue motherhood. Try not to let self-defeating thoughts get in the way of celebrating the day(s) you became a mother.
  3. Remember that no matter how much we want it, our Superhero’s power is not mind-reading.

I hope you all (both the mothers and the mothered) have a fantastic Mother’s Day!

Tina Bushman is the Coauthor of Table Talk. This would make for a great Mother’s Day present. Order it today!